The postpartum period is a time of intense emotions and hormonal changes for new moms. The first 3 months after the baby is born are really difficult. As a result, this is when many parents deal with postpartum mental health, sex, intimacy, and relational issues that come with transitioning to a whole new identity as a new parent.
For new mothers, journaling feelings is a method to get things out of their heads and onto paper. Typically one may think to only journal about “mothering,” but I strongly encourage moms to journal about their sex lives & desires.
A sex journal may help you reflect on your experiences, urges, and fantasies if you’re receptive to the process.
Here are a few reasons why keeping a sex journal may be so beneficial:
👉🏽 it may bring a dimension of mindfulness to your sex life. You can think about past experiences, future wants, or masturbation, even if you’re not having sex with somebody right now.
👉🏽 you could gain a deeper understanding of your sexual desires. By keeping track of your sex life, you can also spot trends that may affect when, how, or why you [do or don’t] desire sex.
👉🏽 communicating with your partner could become less challenging. If you get into the habit of writing about your sex life, it becomes easier to have discussions around it.
Here are a few ideas on how to utilize your sex journal.
👉🏽 Keep track of your sexual activities (solo, partnered, or both).
👉🏽 Ask yourself self-evaluating questions and answer them honestly.
👉🏽 Write about your sexual dreams or detail any sexual fantasies you’ve had
👉🏽 Create a sexual bucket list
If journaling is difficult for you, or you find it challenging to journal about sex, you are not alone. I struggled with journaling for a long time until I created a process that worked for me. I have also been able to help other moms document their sexual journey and learn to use it as a guide in the future.
Send me a message, and let’s chat about where you are currently and how I can help you move forward in your sexual journey as a mom.