Updated: Mar 28
You had a baby weeks ago, AND you’ve been cleared to resume sexual activities, BUT your desire for sex has dis-a-damn-peared.
It’s not really that you don’t WANT sex; it’s just that with everything else going on, it is the furthest thing from your mind... or maybe it isn’t, and you’ve tried but have been unsuccessful at actually enjoying sex, so you’ve started avoiding it.
After giving birth, a decline in your libido is very typical. Within the first few months postpartum, women report experiencing significant changes in their intimate relationships.
Here are 3 reasons why:
🤱🏾Hormonal changes. Low estrogen levels can suppress your desire and cause vaginal dryness, making sex uncomfortable or even painful. For breastfeeding moms, in addition to decreased estrogen levels, breastfeeding is responsible for releasing prolactin, a hormone that encourages breast milk production... and further causing a loss of libido.
🤱🏾You don’t like your new body. Some new mothers are self-conscious about their post-baby bodies.
🤱🏾You’re too tired. With these new responsibilities, life has become a bit overwhelming. First-time mothers, in particular, may struggle to adapt to motherhood duties. Between feedings, diaper changes, other demands of the baby, household chores, and trying to hold down your role as a partner... you might not feel like you don’t have time for yourself, let alone your connection with your partner... no wonder there’s no desire for sex.
Don’t worry if you’re not yet ready to get your sexy on. Even after your doctor has given you the all-clear, you may not feel like having sex. And that’s okay. Some women aren’t ready until the third month after giving birth, while others wait until six months or later.
Tell me in the comments if postpartum has your sex life in a chokehold.
Regardless of the cause(s) or the duration of your decreased sex drive, you are not alone and no longer have to suffer in silence. I understand the frustrations of wanting to WANT sex but having no desire for it.
Send me a message, and let’s discuss how postpartum hinders your sex life and ways to overcome these challenges.